Monday, August 2, 2010

SAVE OR SCRAM..........

Have you ever gotten to the point when you've wondered what the hell it is you are doing dating your partner or whether you mean as much to him/her as he/she does to you???? Have you ever bothered to ask yourself whether you are his 80% or 20% (For more info on the 80-20 rule, read my previous post) To scram or to save that is the question............ After a series of interviews with people I know who have either cheated or are still cheating on their partners, This is what my rather interesting mind deducted from the various stories I was told TA DA DAAAA......!!! (DRUMROLLS.....) 1) Whether you are his/her 80% or 20% is based solely on one thing .... YOU!!!.... Yep, you heard me right, I said YOU ... Okay, let me break this down even further. Are YOU the kind of person he/she is looking forward to settling down with? Are YOU someone he/she can get all comfortable around?? Are YOU someone he/she can trust?? Are YOU his/ her idea of that perfect one??? If you don't satisfy at least one of the above then trust me, you are so not his/her 80% and you might as well take this advise from this blogger who insists her blog ain't a relationship blog and SCRAM!!!!! 2)This is something I learnt from the dudes and I guess it applies to us ladies too. The 2nd point to knowing whether you are his/her 80% or 20% has got a lot to do with the phase he/she was in when you entered his or her life. That is to say, when you enter someone's life at a point when they are looking for just a fling, not a relationship then you don't need a genius to tell you to SCRAM cos no matter how hard you try, you ain't gonna be his 80% 3) Are you his/her friend???? This point actually reminds me of an old song i used to love " If you wanna be my lover, you gotta be my friend.... friendship lasts forever, friendship never ends" With these lyrics in mind, If you know you guys can't be friends and do things friends do...then hear me scream in my loudest voice SCRRRAAAAMMMM!!!! cos you are definately satisfying only 20% of his/her love needs and he is bound to find the 80% somewhere. 4) There is nothing major you want to change about him/her. There will always be differences and conflicts in a relationship. But if there is something truly significant about your man or woman that you wish he/she would change, then that is a red flag, dude, or girl.... SCRAM!!!!. In the initial stages of a relationship, when your brain is bathed with love chemicals, you may be willing to overlook the flaw or even find it strangely endearing. But after several years, when the love chemicals have ebbed, this flaw may begin to grate on your soul. Remember, people seldom change,If there’s something about your girlfriend or boyfriend that you know deep down you can’t live with, than it’s time to move on. You’re wasting both of your times. I guess i gotta end by saying the above list isnt all conclusive though and every relationship has its own trend, sparks and magic.... Before you SCRAM just be sure within yourself that it is so not worth your attention. Afterall, the only person you can't fool is YOURSELF Her Prettyness

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  1. Thanx Maxine... how're you tho :)

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