Tuesday, January 25, 2011
ARE YOU BEING ABUSED EMOTIONALLY????
In my part of the world, telling someone that you are being abused emotionally will send loud laughter from the person, you'd regret opening up to the person. Then again, in my part of the world, you dare not think of yourself as an emotionally abused person. Does that mean the word, emotional abuse does not exist in Ghana?? Is it a white man's sickness?? According to wikipedia, Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that is psychologically harmful . ... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_abuse With that definition, I ask again, ARE YOU BEING EMOTIONALLY ABUSED??? Is someone subjecting you to a behaviour that is psychologically harmful to you?? Emotional abuse can be characterised by verbal abuse. If someone is making you feel worthless with his/ her words, making you feel like you don't matter or holding you captive in any sort of relationship, then that person is emotionally abusing you!!!! My friend dated a boy who threatened to kill himself when she decided to end the relationship. Is that not a form of emotional abuse??? He is abusing her by pleading with the guilt she'd feel should he stupidly kill himself..... I found this somewhere on the internet and I think it is a really good food for thought. "Many women assume that if they're not being physically abused by their partner, then they're not being abused. That's not necessarily true. You may be in a relationship which is draining something from you -- you might not have recognized that your partner has eroded your self-esteem and happiness. An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don't have time to think about what's right and what's wrong in their behavior. Take a moment to consider these questions. Your partner might have behaved as though these things were okay, even though it's obvious that they aren't okay...: Do you feel that you can't discuss with your partner what is bothering you? Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem? Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself? Does your partner isolate you from friends, family or groups? Does your partner limit your access to work, money or material resources? Has your partner ever stolen from you? Or run up debts for you to handle? Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close? Have you ever felt obligated to have sex, just to avoid an argument about it? Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship? Has your partner ever thrown away your belongings, destroyed objects or threatened pets?" Another easy way to spot an emotional abuser, can me summed up into this short poem, I found somewhere else on the internet If you argue with him, he says you're stubborn. If you're quiet, he argues with you anyway. If you call him, he says you're needy and clingy. If he calls you, he thinks you should be grateful. If you don't act like you love him, he'll try to win you over. If you tell him you love him, he takes advantage of you. If you dress sexy, he says you're a slut. If you don't dress nice, he says you look bad. When you don't sleep with him, he says you don't love him. If you do sleep with him, he only does it the way he likes it. If you tell him your problems, he says you're bothering him, If you don't, he says you don't trust him. If you try to bring up a problem, he says you're bitching. If he brings up a problem, he yells. If you break a promise, you "can't be trusted". If he breaks it, it's because "he had to". If you cheat, he wants to punish you by locking you up or beating you. If he cheats, he expects to be given another chance. DON'T STAY IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP...... COS EACH DAY YOU DO, YOU ARE KILLING A BIT OF YOU!!!! Are you afraid of your partner? Her Prettyness