To the best of my knowledge one is either a virgin, that is, one has never ever had sex or one is not a virgin.. As simple as that, right??
So I guess you can imagine the look on my face when one of my girlfriends tells me that she's been dating this guy for a while and she's thinking of being kinda not a virgin cos he is serious about her blah blah. By the way, this my friend claims she is a virgin. I used the word claims because one can never be sure of these things but I digress....
So as I was saying, my friend is thinking about being kinda not a virgin, I dunno whether to use the word for or with her man but you do get the picture, right?
Kinda confused, I asked her what exactly she means by kinda not a virgin.Honestly, her answer made me wonder whether my friend is normal.
For the purpose of this post, let's call my friend Mary. Mary claims, being "kinda not a virgin" is simply doing every thing except penetration. So I asked her whether by everything she means sucking on stuff blah blah.... Then this my friend nods in agreement. I simply asked whether she knows why the name of such action is ORAL SEX...
I don't really care what people do between the sheets but I do think everyone needs to take a stand. If you choose to have sex, stay protected,cOd not, remember why you chose not to and stick to it.
I remember etoileoye once wrote a blog post about adrenaline junkies and she was like, we all try to see how far we go before falling into trouble and I think that is the same situation Mary finds herself in. She wants to maintain her virginity status whilst exploring the passionate world of sex.... But I think she forgets that there is a really thin line between not having and having sex.
So my question is, how far is too far when it comes down to making out and sex?? I asked one of the boys and he said simply reaching the big O! what do you think? Is it possible to be kinda not a virgin or kinda not having sex? And exactly what is sex? when the organs meet or when the Passion is arisen?